How does the serenity prayer go? Something like God, grant me the courage to change what I can change, the serenity to accept what I cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference.
It is wisdom part seems to be where most people have been shortchanged. Far too many people are willing to simply accept that they cannot change things. Or maybe it is simply a shortage of courage.
Find ways to overcome whatever challenges you are faced with and don't wait for someone else to help (if they do help it is an added bonus, but not something that should be a dependency).