"and police strictly the people who possess them. I don't understand why Americans do not want to be spared the fear expressed so eloquently in the article..."
To police in such a way would be inherently unconstitutional:
"A well regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed." Things like the NFA are infringements on the inherent right to self-defense. To qoute the author of this GOOD article:
"Hoeber’s perspective was sobering. Hoeber described herself as “Queer, trans… I have been in my life an outsider.” She says she doesn’t necessarily have the feeling that police are there to protect her, saying that if a fight broke out at a party at her house “chances are I’m as likely to go to jail because it’s my house, and I’m me, as somebody who came to a party at my house and started a fight.” She adds, “The idea of ceding the monopoly on deadly force to the police or to the state or to the other authoritarian power structure, that’s completely fucking ridiculous to me.”
It is amazing, once you have received weapons training and understand how to properly use a firearm, the resulting security you feel in knowing that you can defend your self from all manner of things that go bump in the night.
"People who carry guns tend to look for excuses to use them, and statistics show that having a gun in your house makes you LESS SAFE."
A responsible gun owner actually looks for every chance to not use their firearm. If you kill someone in self-defense, you've still killed someone, and there are legal consequences. You might not go to jail, but there is much paperwork that has to be done. The second part of your statement is categorically misleading:
"according to a Pew Research Center analysis of government data, the homicide rate is down 49 percent since a 1993 peak. By 2011, other violent crimes with firearms—assaults, robberies, sex crimes—were down 75 percent from 1993. According to the Centers for Disease Control, each year in the United States, approximately 11,000 people are killed in gun homicides. Nearly 20,000 die in gun suicides. Cox reminded me that in comparison more people (35,000) die in car accidents each year."
Even if your statement was true, it would still be less than what happens from automobiles.