Welcome back, Bill. It is imperative the issues of creating and demanding conformity of young people be carefully considered. Historically it is just such behavior that was required to be considered an educated person -- consider Confucius as a starting point for a society that has transcended multiple rises and falls. Our Western ideas lay out before us the concept that everything and anything must and should be challenged, questioned, and willingly discarded if it doesn't meet the then momentary thoughts of what is or is not acceptable, good, or desirable.
Although I too have been benefited by an ability to attend outstanding institutions, as have my children, I wonder if your assertion that everyone should be provided the tpe education you have sought for your own children as I too have sought for my own. Seeing children in a class environment, the biggest critique I see is that the "one size fits all" denies the individuality of the student and pushes onto them failure for their inability to conform.
Where in your letter do you address morality as an important part of education? The goals that you push forward offer either success or failure but do not offer a better life when measured by human and societal wisdom, Pushing and demanding a person, in this case your point is about young people, to seek life satisfaction based on achievements that garner physical wealth to the detriment of spiritual well-being will certain continue the spiral of dissatisfaction and angst among those who succeed as well as those who fail in the educational system you both criticize and argue compelling to implement.