I pride myself in being a great listener and truly believe that good listening creates good conversation. When I'm engaged in conversation, I try not to interject and I don't spend every moment thinking of my response. Instead, I listen. I slow down. I try to understand.
A little reminder that my Mom passed along years ago: "always speak with people, not to them."
The next time you're trying to engage in thoughtful conversation, open your ears wider than your mouth.