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  • imurjellybean

    Haven't you guys heard about something called Tinder?

  • zoes

    I think when I have the time, id like to build something like this, except the last part. Just play it smart, and meet people in crowded places. There is always risk with this stuff.

  • TSK

    As a bloke, I find the women selecting the men a profound idea. Men sending photos of their own cocks ? That just seems a bit seedy, and I think that's what causes to put most girls off. Although I did download this app purely because I can't get enough of sex, and women. Women of different shapes and sizes and passions and goals, just women in general, and ultimately sex. But that means they should still be treated with respect

  • Water511

    This article is kind of ridiculous.

    As a gay men who uses Grindr: it's NOT just about casual sex, and I really don't appreciate the ugly stereotypes you're perpetuating about gay people. On Grindr, you'll find many men like myself who are looking for dates and long-term relationships, and explicitly NOT casual sex. I just had a date with a guy I met on Grindr the other night. Guess what? We talked, drank, ate, and hugged at the end of the night. No sex (yet). It was great!

    Grindr is indeed overtly sexual, but that is not its only purpose, and not all gay men are as okay with casual sex as the media makes us seem to be.

    Secondly: having an app where only women can search is absolutely ridiculous. I can't imagine many men signing up for that. Imagine the opposite: an app where only men can search and women can make themselves simply "available". Doesn't sound very rewarding to me. And "endorsements"? That would send the message that all men are potential threats unless someone can vouch for them. Guess what? That applies to all people, and I'm sure men would appreciate the same thing for women on such an app. You have no idea how much I hear "She's pretty, but man she was insane, and not in a good way" from my straight male friends. The point is: the playing field has to be even...always.

    But then again, maybe the playing field will NEVER be completely even when it comes to opposite sex relationships. Thank God I'm a man who loves men.

  • AngusBeef86

    The problem i see with the woman-centric idea is this: a lot of women may still prefer a guy starting everything off. I've used a couple dating sites and they've resulted in, at the very least, a physical relationship. However, over the months of using these dating apps (primarily 2 that are made by a single developer), I've only been engaged first 2 times. Every other time anything has developed I've been the one to engage first.

    Now I might attributed this phenomenon to the fact that I'm not extremely hot in terms of attractiveness; I'm not fugly by any means but I wont be winning any beauty contests anytime soon either. A "set back" such as this is usually overcome by having a personality that allows a woman to feel like I'm not trying to rip her proverbial panties off. In my experience, a woman who receives positive interest in something other than their body, they tend to be more accepting of those of us guys that are less than 10s.

    If you take away the ability for guys to initiate a conversation or some sort of meaningful interaction, you potentially remove the only way a guy like me has at meeting up, hooking up or even talking to a girl online.

  • hmmmiwonder

    "Data from online dating websites actually shows the opposite: Men are picky, and women are far more forgiving and flexible when it comes to seeking a partner."

    Do you have a link?

  • Rossdee

    The only problem with that level of female-centricity is the last part. It's a good idea but in practice, how many guys are actually going to be comfortable saying to a female friend "hey, can you vouch for me on this so I can get laid?" You might be comfortable doing it, but would your friends be comfortable asking is what I'm trying to get at. And I say this from the perspective of still telling my friend that I have an okcupid profile embarrassing.

    Plus it wouldn't protect from those who're creeps enough to just fake a female profile that'd vouch for them

    • Dan Rich

      I got a very nice reference from an ex back in my teens. Firstly, it;s horribly insecure to need a good review to prop you up. Not a great vote of confidence in someone's own taste and judgement. I'm pretty comfortable with my friends, and there's a few who are women. Not only would asking be no problem, but I'd be very surprised if they'd have any trouble lying outrageously to anonymous strangers they'll never meet. I've 2 sisters and a mother with flattering, but warped opinions of me, if required. It's something of a cliché, but I've very little confidence in someone else's idea of an ideal match (and those happy couples will keep trying). Protection from creeps is very tricky, and the only sure way is to avoid people completely. Otherwise, I'm afraid it's down to experience. I've found that other people's opinions and gender discrimination are more harm than help if you want to know about someone.

  • Sam Randolph

    I completely agree. Compared to other dating sites out there today (OkCupid, anyone?), Blendr seems a little too ponderous. It would be awesome if there could truly be something that lives up to Grindr's success. As a guy, I know I'd probably use it. Are there any other ladies who'd like to see a site like that?

    • TSK

      As a bloke, I find the women selecting the men a profound idea. Men sending photos of their own cocks ? That just seems a bit seedy, and I think that's what causes to put most girls off. Although I did download this app purely because I can't get enough of sex, and women. Women of different shapes and sizes and passions and goals, just women in general, and ultimately sex. But that means they should still be treated with respect