Eat mindfully and silently one meal a week
Why is this important?
Most of us wish to live meaningful lives with purpose. A well-lived life is not merely one absent of disease and illness. It is one that has the presence of joy, wisdom, purpose, love, meaning. Living deliberately - consciously - authentically - compassionately through the art of meditation, mindfulness, and body-based practices is not always easy.
The issue is how we get to where we want to be and often we wonder if we must do this alone. Sure we can seek the guidance of friends, family, our community, professional help, but what if there was another way of connecting to ourselves and others? What if it is as simple as mindfulness and eating in an intimate setting with good people once a week?
Building authentic connection through self-awareness and the practice of mindfulness and meditation is a lifestyle, one that is perhaps huge shift for some people, making it difficult to track or implement consistently. Psychologically there is a lot of mixed emotions ranging from excitement to anxiety and stress all the way to fear, that comes with developing a self and social consciousness.
We have information at our fingertips but has that made it easier to find ourselves? We take quizzes, watch tutorials, read books, attend retreats and classes; the spectrum of identities that can be embodied in today’s world is vast. Which sources can we rely on? How do we know what we want versus what society tells us to want? Sifting through our social media news feed can oftentimes trigger anxiety, rejection, loneliness, jealousy. A feeling of not being enough. Comparing our insides to other people’s outsides. How do people find their place in the world when there is so much fragmenting imposed by society? How do people make sense of their internal experiences? What do people do when they are emotionally or physically distressed? What brings people together in times of grief, stress, trauma, joy, happiness?
Maybe it is quite simply FOOD. Sharing meals. Breaking bread.
It is not a coincidence that research suggest positive and healthy outcomes when families eat dinner together. It is no surprise that fire pits, the island in a kitchen, bar counters and the like are places where people gather around. Food is intimate, tasting is sensual, gathering together for a meal requires trust and facilitates closeness. Everyone’s deepest hunger is for love and connection.
I believe it is food that roots us to ourselves and sharing a meal with others make us feel more connected and less alone. No matter what your story is, chances are you have a craving for familiarity, comfort, safety, a sense of belonging. Food is often the most simple and immediate medium to seeking comfort and finding solace. In a non-threatening way, it allows us to find ourselves and connect with others in the most authentic ways.